Words to the wise and all those whose age is higher than the speed limit

My father and I had a tradition of trying to be the first to fool one another on April Fools’ Day, and it was also my Dad who, after much pleading on my part, finally agreed to teach me to drive ... a major concession on his part since next to my mother and me, his car was the love of his life.

It seems quite fitting, therefore, that a column about the AARP Driver Safety course, which I just completed, appear today. I have taken this course every three years for some time now because doing so not only reduces my car insurance premiums, but I know it serves as a timely reminder to refresh and update my driving abilities.

Our congenial, small class was held at the Guilford Community Center, and our excellent volunteer instructor Cliff McGuire Jr. made the class interesting and fun with his sense of humor and ability to involve everyone in the material.

The new, revised course is only 4 hours, and in addition to the useful, large-print book, there is an excellent video. Even though, as a group, seniors are usually very good drivers, (rarely texting or talking on the cellphone while driving) we do need to compensate for certain age-related changes: poorer hearing and vision, slower reaction time, the effects of medications and lessened ability to judge distances.


Ways to correct this are to have your eyes and hearing checked regularly, requesting a special lens coating for your glasses to reduce nighttime glare, omitting the radio and other noises, and using the three-second rule to judge safe distances between yourself and other drivers.

I was surprised by how many road signs I could not identify just by their shape and color, and I was glad for the chance to jog my memory on this and other safe-driving habits, which I was probably using only some of the time. One of the most helpful lessons I took home from a previous class and use every day is the correct way to set your side mirrors so there is no “blind” spot. I can see approaching cars on either side of me, and now never pull out and then, in a panic, think, “Where did that car come from?”

Cliff also updated us on the following recently passed driving laws in Connecticut that most of us had not heard about:

A motorist approaching a stationary emergency vehicle with its lights flashing must slow to a reasonable speed and move over one lane unless it is unsafe to do so.

Drivers must stay behind the white stop line when getting ready to make a left turn. Do not block the box.

Drivers should allow 3 feet between themselves and anyone on a bike.

Drivers are required to remove ice and snow from the hood, trunk and roof of their cars.

Safe driving classes are now given on line as well as at convenient locations throughout the state. There are free classes in November for veterans, for educators in July and August, and there are evening classes in May.

For the rest of us, if you are older than 50, costs are nominal, and classes are given year-round. Last year, more than 500,000 people took the Driver Safety program. Shouldn’t you?

Call 1-888-227-7669 or visit www.aarp.org/drive.

Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford 06405.

Most Americans used to be treated with a bit more class

When I was growing up, our family moved from New York to Long Island, where I entered seventh grade in a beautiful, new school. In those days, to my young eyes, what separated the wealthy families in town from the rest of us “ordinary folk” were two reliable signs: wealthy families had a weekly cleaning woman, and every two years, a new car would appear in their driveways.

Otherwise, the families in town all seemed pretty much the same. Oh, a few kids had fancier bikes or more sweater sets, but it never took on any importance. I did homework with a girl who lived in a sprawling Tudor-style house, but I also played with a friend who lived in a small apartment and shared one bedroom with her two sisters. I thought their bunk beds were “cool.”

While the very wealthy have always lived differently from the rest of us, I now seem to be aware of an ever-increasing trend in America that separates those who are affluent from the rest of us apparent in everyday activities.

When you take an airplane, for example, not only are the seats and food an obvious difference, but so is the check-in process. First class is whisked through with smiles and help; the rest of us stand in long cattle lines and hoist our own luggage onto the check-in scales. Even in coach, the seats in certain aisles that afford additional leg room, and were formerly available on a first-come, first-served basis, are now sold at an additional price. Business and first-class travelers are so desirable that after several years of cost cutting, airlines are now investing in celebrity chefs for their transcontinental flights, while those in coach are lucky to receive a small bag of peanuts.


Banks have always catered to their wealthier clients, but Chase recently announced it will open several special banks in high-profile towns for the exclusive use of its big depositors. These special banks will feature Persian carpets, imported wood paneling, drinks and libations and your own personal banking consultant.

Fashionable department stores that formerly had helpful salespeople throughout the store, comfortable restaurants or tea rooms serving affordable meals, gift wrap, coat rooms, floor walkers ... now have only a few of these services on their most expensive “custom, to order” floors. In the rest of the store, even high-priced items are often jammed together. You search out what you want, lug it to a fitting room, then wait in line to pay for it at wherever you can spot a cashier.

Wealthy individuals can still receive the type of service formerly available to all of us by calling in advance for a personal assistant to help them shop.

Another change that particularly riles me is the pricing of theater tickets. Formerly, there were set prices for different areas of the theater. (In the good old days, it was $1.20-$1.80 for the balcony, $2.40-$3.60 for the loge, and $4.80 for an orchestra seat). Now, I know prices go up with the times, but today tickets are priced according to what the traffic will bear, and a new hit musical can command $200-$300 per ticket!

Perhaps nowhere is the discrepancy between the very wealthy and the rest of us more in evidence and more dangerous to our democracy than in the proliferation of lobbyists in Congress and the costs of political campaigning, which has led to the development of “super pacs” and the theory that a corporation is the same as an individual.

To those who say we are better off than many countries, I would certainly agree. But that isn’t really the important question, is it? Are we better off here, in America, than we used to be? Are more of our citizens better schooled, better housed, with better health care and a more satisfying lifestyle than before? That’s the $64 question we need to consider. (For the youngsters reading this column, $64 was the top category in an old-time, popular radio quiz show in the 1970s. Imagine that!)

- Article by Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions. Contact her at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

Sooner or later, hips, knees, etc. just seem to give out on us

Even if you have the luck of the Irish, if you are older than 65, you stand a very good chance that you will need one or more joints replaced. Seventy-million Americans suffer from some sort of joint disability. Since I celebrated my 65th birthday some time ago and I’m not Irish either, I hurried to hear a lecture recently by the well-known orthopedic surgeon, Dr. Christopher Lynch, at the Village at Mariner’s Point, the waterfront senior living community in East Haven.

Osteoarthritis and the loss of joint cartilage, which then results in pain, is the most common reason people consider knee or hip replacement surgery. Women need knee surgery more often than men, but there are varied causes for any joint surgery: age, weight, repetitive stress to a joint by high-impact sports, and other illness — all can be causative factors.

Signs of a problem are stiffness and swelling and sometimes a grinding pain. While there is no way to reverse the process, Lynch said weight loss and medications such as NSAIDS or anti-inflammatory drugs can lessen the pain. The verdict is not in yet on supplements. He said they seemed to help some people, so you should do whatever seems to help.

Cortisone injections give dramatic, but short-term relief, working at first when they are given at four-month intervals, but then becoming less and less effective. Hyaluronic acid has a delayed effect, but does give more long lasting relief; six months to a year, when successful.

Lynch feels that arthritis is not an emergency and since recovery can be long and sometimes difficult, most patients should try injections and medications, first. Surgery might want to be considered if the joint is painful and prevents you from performing even the simplest of activities.

The different types of knee-replacement surgery should be discussed beforehand with your surgeon. Arthroscopy or “camera” surgery is unpredictable and therefore, controversial. Knee osteotomy in which bone is cut and re-aligned was previously used for young or heavier patients.

Now, uni or partial, requiring a smaller incision and resulting in a more normal feeling knee, is used along with tri-compartment or total when the patient has arthritis in two or more compartments. This type of surgery was first performed in 1968, but now there are 600,000 total knee surgeries performed each year in America.

The patient is usually out of the hospital in three days, but therapy will take 6-8 weeks and recovery, about 6 months.

An article in a leading health magazine pointed out the importance of post-operative narcotics to relieve pain. Epidural implants or patient-controlled infusion pumps can be used to control pain and speed recovery.

Lynch answered questions from the audience about hip surgery which he said, seemed to achieve the highest satisfaction rate among patients. Hip surgery usually lasts 10-20 years, depending on the patient’s weight, how much stress is put on the hip and how the joint and bones mend. The upper end of the thighbone or femur is replaced with a metal ball, and the hip socket in the pelvic bone is re-surfaced with a metal shell or plastic liner. New, minimally invasive surgery has reduced the incision from 8-12 inches to 3-5 inches.

What can you do (other than not growing older) to avoid knee or hip surgery?

-Keep moving to keep joints healthy

-Change positions often; take breaks from desk, chair or car.

-Low-impact exercise such as walking, biking, swimming.

-Strengthen your core which improves balance, preventing falls.

-Every pound you lose takes 4 pounds of pressure off your knees.

Even if you have the luck of the Irish, if you are older than 65, you stand a very good chance that you will need one or more joints replaced. Seventy-million Americans suffer from some sort of joint disability. Since I celebrated my 65th birthday some time ago and I’m not Irish either, I hurried to hear a lecture recently by the well-known orthopedic surgeon, Dr. Christopher Lynch, at the Village at Mariner’s Point, the waterfront senior living community in East Haven.

Osteoarthritis and the loss of joint cartilage, which then results in pain, is the most common reason people consider knee or hip replacement surgery. Women need knee surgery more often than men, but there are varied causes for any joint surgery: age, weight, repetitive stress to a joint by high-impact sports, and other illness — all can be causative factors.

Signs of a problem are stiffness and swelling and sometimes a grinding pain. While there is no way to reverse the process, Lynch said weight loss and medications such as NSAIDS or anti-inflammatory drugs can lessen the pain. The verdict is not in yet on supplements. He said they seemed to help some people, so you should do whatever seems to help.

Cortisone injections give dramatic, but short-term relief, working at first when they are given at four-month intervals, but then becoming less and less effective. Hyaluronic acid has a delayed effect, but does give more long lasting relief; six months to a year, when successful.

Lynch feels that arthritis is not an emergency and since recovery can be long and sometimes difficult, most patients should try injections and medications, first. Surgery might want to be considered if the joint is painful and prevents you from performing even the simplest of activities.

The different types of knee-replacement surgery should be discussed beforehand with your surgeon. Arthroscopy or “camera” surgery is unpredictable and therefore, controversial. Knee osteotomy in which bone is cut and re-aligned was previously used for young or heavier patients.

Now, uni or partial, requiring a smaller incision and resulting in a more normal feeling knee, is used along with tri-compartment or total when the patient has arthritis in two or more compartments. This type of surgery was first performed in 1968, but now there are 600,000 total knee surgeries performed each year in America.

The patient is usually out of the hospital in three days, but therapy will take 6-8 weeks and recovery, about 6 months.

An article in a leading health magazine pointed out the importance of post-operative narcotics to relieve pain. Epidural implants or patient-controlled infusion pumps can be used to control pain and speed recovery.

Lynch answered questions from the audience about hip surgery which he said, seemed to achieve the highest satisfaction rate among patients. Hip surgery usually lasts 10-20 years, depending on the patient’s weight, how much stress is put on the hip and how the joint and bones mend. The upper end of the thighbone or femur is replaced with a metal ball, and the hip socket in the pelvic bone is re-surfaced with a metal shell or plastic liner. New, minimally invasive surgery has reduced the incision from 8-12 inches to 3-5 inches.

What can you do (other than not growing older) to avoid knee or hip surgery?

-Keep moving to keep joints healthy

-Change positions often; take breaks from desk, chair or car.

-Low-impact exercise such as walking, biking, swimming. Continued...

-Strengthen your core which improves balance, preventing falls.

-Every pound you lose takes 4 pounds of pressure off your knees.

- Article by Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions. Contact her at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

I'm down in the basement with all the stuff that should have been tossed years ago

“Happiness doesn’t depend on how much you have to enjoy, but how much you enjoy what you have.” — Tom Wilson

Talk about poetic justice! Here I am, the de-clutter expert who helps others who are planning to dispose of too many possessions, deep in the recesses of my enormous basement, surrounded by a 20-year hoard of unnecessary stuff.

I have been talking aloud to my recently departed husband, Val, accusing him of saving every piece of paper since he was in third grade. In all honesty, however, he never wore those size 10 women’s clothes and even my own memory is dim as to what year it was when I last fitted into anything less than a size 16.

The trouble with basements is that they are the perfect excuse to procrastinate; to say, in effect, “I’ll think about this later. After all, maybe, I’ll need it someday.”

Well, dear reader, my “some day” has come and gone, and I am now applying my own good-riddance rules with a vengeance. For those of you inspired by the advent of spring to join me in my throw-out marathon, here are some helpful hints:

First, recognize that clutter is anything you don’t use, want or love — often, items labeled “miscellaneous” and lacking a place or purpose.

Walk around your house and make a list of everything you see that you really don’t need. Now, open drawers and do the same thing.

Picture, in your mind, how each room could look without the extra clutter. Getting rid of clutter also eliminates much cleaning.

Questions to ask yourself:

1. How long has it been since I used this? Continued...


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2. Do I have more than one of this item? (Especially in the kitchen)

3. Do I need and enjoy this regularly?

4. Is this in good condition? Would it be cheaper to fix or replace it?

5. Are there unfinished projects? Set a deadline for completion, or say good-bye.

When it comes to closets, beware of fancy organizers. Sometimes all they accomplish is to help us neatly store what we don’t really need.

As for clothes, if it looks better on the hanger than it does on you, out it goes.

Sentimental clutter can be the hardest to bid farewell. Grandmother’s china, your children’s schoolwork, vacation mementos, cards and photos from high school friends. Sometimes, you can keep a sampling; one or two items beautifully arranged or displayed will offer more meaning and pleasure.

You’ll want to save the sentimental stuff for last because each card, each photo, each beloved item will have to be read, talked about, admired, etc., and departure depression sets in.

Part of the problem for those of you in my age group (over 50 ... way over) is we grew up in a period of “wear it out, use it up, make it do,” so we hate to throw away anything. But that was a period when we had very few things, so we were savers and keepers out of necessity.

We all feel better when we can turn our unwanted items into good deeds. Consignment shops and thrift shops are always looking for attractive furniture and clothes, and donations are tax deductible. Charities and international organizations often have drives for specific items. Continued...

Charlies Closet in Guilford (203-453-8359) accepts all kinds of used medical equipment and health aids. Half-price bookstores exist around New Haven, and your professional clothing can make a big difference for someone looking for a job.

Be sure to give yourself a little treat after a successful good-riddance session.

Keep in mind that the past is to learn from, not to live in.

On a personal note: I thank the many readers who emailed and wrote to me after my Feb. 26 column. I hope to answer all of you, individually, but it will take some time. Meanwhile, know that your thoughtful caring has helped immeasurably.

- Article by Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions. Contact her at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.