Who couldn t use a little help with the checkbook

“The only way not to think about money is to have a great deal of it.” — Edith Wharton

Did you break into a sweat meeting the tax deadline last week or, like me, did you have to request a postponement? (Taxes were formerly Val’s area of responsibility).

Although for some time there have been volunteers available to help in preparing taxes, organizing finances and check-paying during the year has remained a problem for many seniors. A new money-management program from RSVP of South Central Connecticut, using the AARP Foundation Money Management Program, has come to the rescue and is available in many towns throughout the state.

The program recruits and trains volunteers to provide assistance to seniors and adults with disabilities who can make responsible decisions, but need some help. Working at the client’s home, the AARP Foundation provides the program materials and, very importantly, financial protection of the client’s funds.

Typically, a volunteer spends several hours, at least once a month, to assist in budgeting, organizing and sending out mail, check writing (but signing is done only by the client) and balancing the checkbook. Volunteers are at least 55 years old and undergo a thorough background check. They submit monthly financial reports and are supervised by Josephine Lifrieri, the program director.

Eligibility guidelines for the program are:

Income and asset limits (2012): single person, $45,500; two-person household, $52,000. Liquid assets: amount equal to the annual income limit.

For information, call Lifrieri at 203-752-3059. RSVP is a program of the South Central Connecticut Agency on Aging.

If you don’t qualify for volunteer help, there are private money managers to help get us organized so next year’s tax preparation and the monthly bill-paying will be greatly simplified.

Consumer Reports publishes its monthly Money Advisor magazine ($29 for a one-year subscription) that, like other CR publications, is chock-full of helpful advice on managing your financial affairs.  

Additionally, it can pay to review your monthly budget expenses to make sure you are getting the best deal; it is those recurring expenses that can make a big difference. For example:

-Insurance: Compare prices for auto, home, health and life insurance. Sometimes, consolidating at one company can lower costs. Make sure you are receiving all available discounts.

-Financial fees: Look for free checking and online statements and no charge for use of ATM machines.

-Phone and cable TV: Check out special cellphone rates, satellite television rates and “bundling” of services.

-Utility bills: You can sometimes get a better price on your energy needs, and make an effort to conserve electricity and water.

-Refinance or move: Current interest rates are really low; if you plan to stay put, it might make sense to refinance. If the family has left and you are still in a big house, but hardly use most of the space, it’s time to simplify and look for smaller, more suitable and less expensive housing.

Two major, but very different anniversaries, get our attention

This past week marked two very divergent anniversaries — the 100th anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic and the 100th year marking the gift of more than 3,000 cherry trees to our nation’s capital from Japan.

In light of the number of many more major disasters since that fateful April day in 1912 when the Titanic went down, it is remarkable that our fascination with this event has never waned. In fact, a 3-D version of the film “Titanic” was just released, although my favorite movie of the event is still the superb black-and-white British version “A Night to Remember.”

Perhaps the reason for our endless interest in this long-ago disaster, is that the lesson it clearly teaches is that even the very wealthy and powerful can never presume to be completely safe.

On the opposite side of what fascinates us, this year Washington has gone all out to celebrate one of the most lasting gifts, appreciated every year by so many, the fabulous cherry trees from the mayor of Tokyo to the city of Washington, D.C. Originally, 3,020 were sent, most of which were planted around the Tidal Basin, and 4,000 more were accepted by Lady Bird Johnson in 1965.

I just returned from Washington, where I enjoyed a few days of the Cherry Blossom Festival. Daughter Marianne met me there, and although many of the blossoms had already peaked due to our unusually warm weather, there were still enough remaining to delight and lift the heart.

We visited the new Martin Luther King Memorial, where I felt the many quotations of his remarks on the walls behind the memorial, were more inspiring than the rather stern-looking statue itself.

By mistake, we went to the National Portrait Gallery while looking for the National Gallery of Art, but, in addition to portraits of all the past presidents, enjoyed the exhibit, “The Black List”; up-ending the usual meaning of “a list of persons who are disapproved of” into a roll call of distinction with remarkable life-like photographs of 50 highly accomplished African-Americans.

The following day, we finally did find the National Gallery of Art. The exhibit here, which runs only until April 29, offers a once- in-a-lifetime opportunity to view 30 of the most breathtakingly beautiful silk scrolls imaginable. These Japanese “Bird and Flower Paintings” by the 18th-century master Ito Jakuchu are one of Japan’s most renowned cultural treasures.

Originally painted for a Kyoto temple, they have resided for many years in the Imperial household, shown only once in Japan and never before outside the country. These paintings of nature teem withlife and indeed seem lit from within, each delicate leaf and feather almost glowing and the flowers and fish seem three-dimensional.

The next day was a business day for Marianne, so after a leisurely breakfast, I went to the Sackler, where the wood-block series, “36 Views of Mt. Fuji” was displayed. I had previously seen many of these at the Fine Arts in Boston, but it was still wonderful.

There was much more I had hoped to see, but my bad ankle was misbehaving, and I also wanted to visit old-time friends, Em and Ernie Sigety who live in nearby Alexandria, Va.

Alexandria resembles some of our beautiful shoreline towns with its historic plaqued houses, cobblestone streets and picturesque waterfront. It was delightful to have a chance to see this lovely town, but even more, to enjoy the special company of friends of almost 60 years.

We are so fortunate here in Connecticut to live within easy visiting distance to several culturally rich and interesting cities — New York, Boston, Philadelphia and Washington. We should all try to take advantage of what they offer. Plan a trip soon.You’ll be glad you did.

We have a number of reasons to celebrate today

Even though it has been a wonderfully mild winter, it is still uplifting to watch the flowers starting to bloom and know it’s Easter and spring has really arrived. We see colorful Easter eggs and signs of the Easter bunny, a symbol that originated with the goddess Eastre, who was worshipped by the Anglo-Saxons.

The date of Easter is determined by the moon, and ever since 325 AD, it has been celebrated on the first Sunday following the first full moon after March 21. Even in Greek mythology, Demeter and Persephone, convey the idea of a goddess returning seasonally from the nether regions to the light of day in conjunction with the vernal equinox, March 21.

The English name, Easter was used by the early English Christians who, hoping others would accept Christianity, decided to use the name Easter so it would match the old “Eastre” celebration, making it more comfortable for others to adopt the new religion.

Some point out that the Easter festival is related with the Hebrew tradition, the Jewish Passover, which commemorates Israel’s deliverance from about 300 years of bondage in Egypt. Easter holidays in different countries are celebrated at different times of the year. In New Zealand, people attend church over the weekend to celebrate the death and resurrection of Christ and to mark the end of Lent.

In the Czech Republic, Easter is no longer considered a great religious holiday, but is observed as a celebration of the vibrant spring season and a chance for a family gathering,

Of course, everywhere women and children love to dress in their most colorful and newest clothes. Visit New York City today from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. and watch the gorgeous outfits, complete with extravagant Easter hats, paraded down Fifth Avenue. Others opt for the famous egg hunt on the great lawn of the White House.

Whatever you decide to do, it is a wonderful time to celebrate with family and friends.

The sleepy colors of winter

Fade fast in the dawn of Spring

The joy of Easter’s promise Continued...

Delivers sweet reason to sing.

— Author Unknown

Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford, 06405.

Words to the wise and all those whose age is higher than the speed limit

My father and I had a tradition of trying to be the first to fool one another on April Fools’ Day, and it was also my Dad who, after much pleading on my part, finally agreed to teach me to drive ... a major concession on his part since next to my mother and me, his car was the love of his life.

It seems quite fitting, therefore, that a column about the AARP Driver Safety course, which I just completed, appear today. I have taken this course every three years for some time now because doing so not only reduces my car insurance premiums, but I know it serves as a timely reminder to refresh and update my driving abilities.

Our congenial, small class was held at the Guilford Community Center, and our excellent volunteer instructor Cliff McGuire Jr. made the class interesting and fun with his sense of humor and ability to involve everyone in the material.

The new, revised course is only 4 hours, and in addition to the useful, large-print book, there is an excellent video. Even though, as a group, seniors are usually very good drivers, (rarely texting or talking on the cellphone while driving) we do need to compensate for certain age-related changes: poorer hearing and vision, slower reaction time, the effects of medications and lessened ability to judge distances.


Ways to correct this are to have your eyes and hearing checked regularly, requesting a special lens coating for your glasses to reduce nighttime glare, omitting the radio and other noises, and using the three-second rule to judge safe distances between yourself and other drivers.

I was surprised by how many road signs I could not identify just by their shape and color, and I was glad for the chance to jog my memory on this and other safe-driving habits, which I was probably using only some of the time. One of the most helpful lessons I took home from a previous class and use every day is the correct way to set your side mirrors so there is no “blind” spot. I can see approaching cars on either side of me, and now never pull out and then, in a panic, think, “Where did that car come from?”

Cliff also updated us on the following recently passed driving laws in Connecticut that most of us had not heard about:

A motorist approaching a stationary emergency vehicle with its lights flashing must slow to a reasonable speed and move over one lane unless it is unsafe to do so.

Drivers must stay behind the white stop line when getting ready to make a left turn. Do not block the box.

Drivers should allow 3 feet between themselves and anyone on a bike.

Drivers are required to remove ice and snow from the hood, trunk and roof of their cars.

Safe driving classes are now given on line as well as at convenient locations throughout the state. There are free classes in November for veterans, for educators in July and August, and there are evening classes in May.

For the rest of us, if you are older than 50, costs are nominal, and classes are given year-round. Last year, more than 500,000 people took the Driver Safety program. Shouldn’t you?

Call 1-888-227-7669 or visit www.aarp.org/drive.

Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford 06405.