Giving thanks on the other 364 days of the year will make us ALL happier

“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.”W.T. Purkiser
Many of us, as we sat down to Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday, either silently or aloud, offered a little prayer of thanks for the meal and for being with family or friends. But, so often, the rest of the year, we neglect to be grateful for the daily pleasures that fill our lives.

I was reminded of this recently when someone asked me what were the small things that gave me pleasure every day, and I started to think about the beauty of the evening sky over the water as I drive home in the evening, the taste of good food, getting dressed in something pretty, the sound of my daughter’s voice over the phone, my cats cuddling on my bed at night ... these things and so many more fill me with happiness, and yet I take them for granted and neglect to remember to be grateful.

I would be remiss if I did not mention that I feel so fortunate and am especially grateful to be able to share my thoughts each week with so many interesting readers that, upon occasion, stop me in a restaurant or the supermarket or email me to offer their opinions and friendship.

If we are constantly anxious or worried, it is hard to be grateful so it is important to try to live in the moment, to fully savor and enjoy the here and now. What used to be is past, and what will be is beyond our control. Breathe deeply of the present moment before it, too, slips away. Cultivate friendships with positive people that make you feel good and cherish those who are lighthearted and make you laugh.

It is also important, I believe, to listen to that small, inner voice that guides you to what creates self-fulfillment for you. We are all unique individuals with special needs and yearnings, and unless these are being satisfied, we can’t be truly happy.

Some individuals find that keeping a gratitude journal reminds them of the many wonderful pleasures in their life. Just taking a few minutes at the end of each day to reflect upon the day’s happenings is, I think, a worthwhile practice. In today’s fast-paced world where we are surrounded by constant distractions and feel guilty unless we are “using” every minute, relaxation and reflection are too often, lost arts. With the holiday season approaching, it is also a good time to remember that the meaning of a gift is not in its expense; it is a way of showing gratitude to those we love.

Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

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