Postcard from a magical day in NYC

On one of those all-too-rare sunny and warm days recently, I finally was able to take a longed-for opportunity to go into New York City. Meeting my New Jersey friend and travel companion, Barbara Borchardt at the Metropolitan Museum, we spent several hours ogling the wonders of their major exhibit, “Treasures from the Forbidden City,” which contains a breathtaking collection of items from the opulent retirement residence of the Qianlong Emperor who presided over China’s last dynasty.

After a leisurely lunch in the Met’s beautiful dining room overlooking Central Park, we headed for the Jewish Museum, nearby, for an exhibit on the fascinating and still famous, Harry Houdini. My mother had seen Houdini, whose name is synonymous with magic, perform one of his famous straitjacket escapes in London, and her vivid re-telling of that experience to me, as a little girl, had left a lasting impression. The exhibit, while not large, is very entertaining and well laid out, and we were particularly fortunate to arrive just as one of the docents was beginning a tour.

Houdini, who was born Ehrich Weisz in Budapest in 1874, was one of seven children of a rabbi and his wife who joined the immigrant stream to America where Ehrich (soon called Harry) grew up in Appleton, Wis., and in a boardinghouse on East 79th Street in New York. At the tender age of 9, little Harry was a practicing trapeze artist, calling himself, “Prince of the Air.”

As he grew up, he played dime museums and sideshows and initially focused on card tricks. He was influenced by the French magician Jean Eugene Robert-Houdin and began to use the name of Harry Houdini. While performing in Coney Island, he met Bess Rahner whom he soon married and who became his lifelong assistant.

His career took off upon meeting vaudeville impresario Martin Beck, and at age 26, he toured Europe. His escape from handcuffs supplied by Scotland Yard in London baffled the police and gained much publicity, and he became known as the “handcuff king.”

Houdini was a master of self-promotion, utilizing the poster, which was just becoming popular, as a way to promote himself. He often would also perform an outdoor feat just before an indoor stage show, usually choosing a site near the newspaper office, so reporters and photographers were sure to cover the event and feature it in the morning paper.

He stayed ahead of other performers by constant innovation and by taking great risks along with rigorous training. He invented the “Chinese Water Torture Cell,” on view at the exhibit, a glass and steel cabinet filled with water in which he was suspended, upside down and handcuffed. In order to escape, he had to hold his breath for over 3 minutes.

He nearly died during one “Buried Alive” stunt in Santa Ana, Calif. Buried in a 6-foot pit, he became exhausted and panicky and had to call for help. He was especially idolized by immigrants and the poor as a symbol of indomitable will ... nothing could imprison him or hold him back. He became active in exposing charlatans who were duping people by claiming supernatural powers and as a member of the Scientific American Committee, offered a cash prize to anyone who could successfully demonstrate supernatural abilities.

This crusade cost him his friendship with Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, author of Sherlock Holmes, who was a devout believer in Spiritualism. His brief movie career was not successful, but he was such a celebrity that years later he would be given a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

Several movies were made about his life; one which incorrectly portrayed the manner of his death starred Tony Curtis and Janet Leigh. A more recent movie based on his life was “Death Defying Acts” and starred Catherine Zeta Jones. He was honored on a 2002 postage stamp, and there is a Houdini Museum in Scranton, Pa.

Harry Houdini was fond of ending his performances with the phrase, “Will wonders never cease?” The lasting wonder of this legendary performer is his enduring fame and lasting imprint on our culture.

‰“Treasures from the Forbidden City” is at the Metropolitan Museum to May 1.

‰“Conjuring Houdini” is at the Jewish Museum at Fifth Ave and 92nd Street (closed on Wednesdays) through March 27.

Contact Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

SENIOR MOMENTS: Things are looking up for those of us who happen to be aging

Geriatrics is the branch of medical science that deals with the diseases and complex needs specific to the elderly. Its goals are to promote health, prevent and treat diseases with an emphasis on helping to maintain functional independence.

Geriatric doctors work with many other specialists to provide comprehensive care for patients with multiple needs. A certain Dr. Christopher Jones defined it more succinctly as “pediatrics for wrinkly people.”

Despite the fact that the “wrinkly population” is growing by leaps and bounds, to date there are fewer than 10,000 licensed geriatric specialists throughout the United States. We are, therefore, indeed fortunate in Greater New Haven to have an outstanding geriatrics program at Yale-New Haven Hospital, which not only offers some renowned geriatric specialists, but the hospital is also the source of groundbreaking research programs.

Yale researchers have already achieved national recognition with their studies on preventing falls, reducing delirium, decreasing functional decline and enhancing driving performance in seniors.

Yale-New Haven physicians also act as teachers and mentors to health-care professionals and as advocates for health-care policies that will encourage elders’ independence.

I spoke at length recently with the charming and deceptively boyish-looking Dr. Thomas Gill, who is one of the country’s leading experts on functional decline and disability in older adults.

Gill recently established the Yale Center on Disability and Disabling Disorders. In addition, he directs the Claude D. Pepper Older Americans Independence Center at the Yale School of Medicine. Many readers may remember the fiery Pepper, long-serving Democratic senator from Florida, who became the nation’s foremost spokesman for the elderly.

Gill is acting as the principle investigator at Yale for two exciting nationwide studies that are evaluating how to help older persons maintain their independence and increase their well being. The trial study is recruiting men 65 or older and will determine if replacing testosterone in older men with low levels can reverse some of the unwanted symptoms of aging. The second study, called LIFE, is seeking men and women ages 70-89, and will compare two different lifestyle approaches to maintaining independence: physical activity vs. health promotion and education.

Volunteers should be those individuals who don’t currently exercise and may be having some difficulty with everyday activities such as getting in and out of a car, climbing steps or some walking outside the home.

They must be willing to meet up to twice a week for the duration of the study, (about three years) although a one-month break for travel or family obligations is allowed each year. All volunteers will have a unique opportunity to grow physically and mentally and to form interesting friendships. And isn’t it rewarding to know that as a volunteer, you will not only be helping yourself, but potentially, future generations of seniors, as well.

I had a delightful chat with one enthusiastic participant, Curtis Patton, a fascinating 75-years-young former professor with a full and active retirement life, who said he is greatly enjoying the continuing connection with others in the group that he has gotten to know.

Two other excellent resources at Yale–New Haven Hospital that readers should know about are:

-The Acute Care for the Elderly Unit — a model of interdisciplinary care for older patients featuring a team of physicians, nurses, physical and occupational therapists, a care coordinator, dietitian and social worker who meet and review the goals of care for each patient.

-The Dorothy Adler Geriatric Assessment Center — an outpatient center that uses a team approach to work with patients and their families to develop plans of care to keep patients independent and conducts tests for cognitive decline.

To inquire about volunteer opportunities for the LIFE Study program for men and women, call 203-785-7597, or go to geriatrics.yale.edu/research/life.aspx. For the male-only testosterone study, call 203-737-5672, or go to www.ttrial.org.

Seems as if this might be the best possible of times to be growing older.

Contact Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

JEAN CHERNI: All the good ones are not taken, so get busy

Valentine’s Day is, traditionally, a time for lovers, but today in America, the most common household category is of a person living alone. There are 21 million single men and women in the over-50 age bracket, with four times as many women as men who live by themselves.

We all want to feel special, to be needed and comforted, but the affection and loyalty of a golden retriever can only go so far. Two interesting books that look for answers to living solo in a world that marches by twos, are “Dating After Fifty” by Sharon Romm, and “Never Be Lonely Again” by Pat Love and Jon Carlson. Romm claims that several prevailing myths are what prevents people from finding the companionship they crave.

Myth No. 1: All the good ones are taken. Actually, there are still many potential partners if you don’t set your expectations unreasonably high and take time to allow relationships to develop at their own pace.

Myth No. 2: No one will love me the way I am. Self-acceptance is key to being attractive to others. Work on improving what you can; you need to feel good about yourself. If that means losing some weight, join a weight-loss group. If you are shy, take a Dale Carnegie course. Challenge yourself to be the best you can be.

Myth No. 3: The family will object. You have a right to your personal happiness, and if that entails relationships outside of traditional marriage or unusual living arrangements, it is your choice to make. Dating does not necessarily lead to marriage if you don’t want it. Just be honest about your own feelings.

Myth No. 4: Dating is dangerous. Not if you take sensible precautions. If you haven’t been introduced through mutual friends or a common social group, meet in a public place for coffee, only. Ask questions and do some checking before further meetings.

In “Never Be Lonely Again,” the authors, who are behavioral experts, met with the Dalai Lama to develop a new approach to combat loneliness. Theirs is a difficult approach, requiring a total, ongoing commitment, but would seem to promise true and lasting results. The authors point out that we should not confuse alone and lonely; many people who live by themselves are very happy and not lonely, while others who live with a partner or family member feel desperately lonely.

Technology gives people the illusion that they are in relationships. Presence, in every sense of the word, is the key to never being lonely again. The book goes on to explain the importance of cultivating positive emotions and exercises to help accomplish this, and also emphasizes the need to shift from self-pleasure to happiness by using our particular skills for the good of others.

The book poses five questions that will change your life:

1. Who Am I? Your core values reflect who you are. How do you want the people you love to remember you?

2. Am I connected? You need three to five people in your close circle of friends/family for a true sense of well-being.

3. Am I living in community? Invest in people outside your close circle for a sense of well-being and belonging.

4. Are my talents being utilized in meaningful work? Work doesn’t have to be a paid activity. When you use your talents to benefit others, you feel productive and useful.

5. Am I living out the purpose of my life? Am I doing what I was put here on Earth to do?

For some of us, Valentine’s Day is bittersweet — remembering those loved ones we have lost. We need to focus on other loves: grandchildren, family members and treasured friends. Remember, love comes in many forms.

Contact Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.

Cue the snowy 'Dr. Zhivago' music

When some of my Connecticut friends would complain about winter weather, I would often chide them by saying winters here were a piece of cake, you haven’t experienced winter’s fury until you’ve lived in Chicago.

Well, this winter, I’ve had my comeuppance.

Here we are, just beginning February, and the winter already seems endless. Chicago, in some respects, however, still takes the “worst-ever” trophy. We were new to the area with relatively little money and two small energetic boys who were both still in diapers (cloth ones that froze on the clothesline).

You couldn’t keep two active little ones indoors, and my entire long winter seemed to consist of getting one in a clean diaper and zipped to his ears in a snowsuit, only to have to undress, change the diaper on his brother and again bundle him into his snowsuit before bracing for the bitter cold and unforgiving wind.

Our daughter, Marianne, was not born until well after our Chicago sojourn, but she did choose the equally cold climate of Iowa City for her college years. I recall our shopping together for one of those down-filled puffy coats that make you look like you are coming when you’re going.

Upon finally leaving Iowa, she informed me she had burned the coat and vowed never to live anywhere where she would have to wear something like that again. True, to her word, she spent a short time working in Washington and then started a business in San Francisco, where she has lived, sans heavy winter clothing, happily, ever since.

I suppose, if one is young and athletic, all this snow can present many opportunities for fun. As for me, arthritis is appearing in joints I didn’t know I had, my heating bill is going to be a whopper, and the calendar looks like a crossword puzzle with appointments canceled, rescheduled and canceled again.

Attempting to keep a business appointment in downtown New Haven on a sunny day, I nearly got permanently stuck on an uncleared side street, and finding nowhere to park, gave up and drove home. I’m also expected to sound genuinely thrilled for several friends who will be leaving on winter vacations in exotic, warm places. (They better not show their faces again until they’ve at least had the decency to lose their tans).

As my mother use to tell me, “There’s always somebody who is worse off.” Skye, Scotland, is reputed to be one of the coldest inhabited places, excluding Antarctica, which doesn’t count because outside of scientists, nobody lives there except penguins and seals.

Oymyakon in Eastern Siberia has winter nine months of the year with average temperatures of minus 49 degrees. Everything freezes, from electronics to gasoline.

In our own country, the prize goes to International Falls, Minn., with winter temperatures of minus 32 degrees. Why anyone would ever choose it as a vacation destination is beyond my understanding, but there are a growing group of “ice hotels,” the first of which opened in Sweden, where visitors can play Eskimo during their stay.

Igloo accommodations, which are rebuilt every year, feature an ice bar, a wedding chapel and even a heated glass igloo where you can stay awake and watch the Northern Lights.

Consoling myself with a mug of hot chocolate the other night, I came upon some other reflections on winter weather:

- “It snowed and snowed the whole world over ... snow swept the world from end to end.” — Boris Pasternak

- “Winter is the season in which people try to keep the house as warm as it was in the summer, when they complained about the heat.” — Unknown

- “Winter is on my head but eternal spring is in my heart.” — Victor Hugo

- Lastly, and good for all of us to keep in mind: “One kind word can warm these winter months.” — Japanese proverb

Contact Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.