Ola (Hello) Barcelona.
My very favorite thing to do is to go somewhere I’ve never been before, so when an opportunity to take a short break from work and caring for Val, occurred, I didn’t think twice before deciding to book a trip to Spain.
The timing turned out to be unusually fortunate; I didn’t know until my return that the flight to Barcelona left just prior to the unusual snowstorm that hit Connecticut. My good friend and travel companion on many other journeys, Barbara Borchardt, met me at JFK, and in a pleasant 7½ hours we were seeing the first light of early morning in Barcelona.
It was not far to our small, boutique hotel near the main boulevard, La Rambla, with all the elegant shops, outdoor cafes and nonstop bustling traffic of pedestrians, yellow and black mini-cabs and motorcycles dodging in and out.
Barcelona is an elegant city of wide, tree-lined boulevards and beautifully preserved old buildings; most of which do not exceed nine stories. Additionally, the climate is sunny and warm, so there are many outdoor cafes, lush parks with greenery and flowers and people strolling the streets until late in the evening.
Available too, are excellent museums, restaurants and shops; in short, a most agreeable city in which to live. As a contrast to the elegant, old buildings of the city, most of the furnishings in the hotels and restaurants tend to be minimalist, ultra-modern.
Our hotel room was done in black and white with light switches you can’t figure out, a telephone and television remote that look identical, and a shower so well hidden behind a gray sliding panel we didn’t discover it until the second night. But there was a balcony overlooking the avenue, a helpful staff and a bountiful breakfast every morning.
Barcelona has an excellent system of on-off tourist buses. You buy a two- to three-day pass, but spend the previous night figuring out which museums or sights are on the red, blue or green line; which are on your paid-for special museum pass, which are free, and which ones you have a discount coupon for — all important to consider as there are long lines for most exhibits.
The pre-paid museum pass, which our travel agent, John Weinstein of Adler Travel in Hamden had recommended, was a big time-saver, allowing us to go to the head of the line.
We visited the Miro and the Picasso museums. The later is located in a converted palace. Other outstanding sights were the building known as Casa Batllo, a townhouse featuring swirling staircases, oceanic images and hallucinogenic curves typical of the famed architect, Gaudi, whose many remarkable creations are located in Barcelona. Continued...
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Another madcap Gaudi masterpiece, La Pedrera, has a rooftop of giant chimney pots that look like medieval knights. Supposedly, they were the inspiration for the imperial stormtroopers in the “Star Wars” movies.
The most famous of the many Gaudi buildings, however, is the La Sagrada Familia, a modernistic version of a medieval cathedral, still under construction after more than 100 years. Although unfinished, it is the most visited monument in all Spain.
Dinner is late, usually 8:30 or 9, and my favorite is eating at a tapas bar, where you point to the many wonderful little dishes and snack away while having white wine. I had fried sardines, roasted baby peppers, clams, crispy fried petite potatoes, succulent prawns and ended with ice cream with macadamia nuts.
Wonderful. And all during the dinner, I was chatting with a young man from Sweden who was a dead ringer for Leonardo Di Caprio.
Even more terrific, food was on view the next day when we visited the Boquieria Market, a huge open-air market with exotic fruit, dazzling seafood, mouth-watering pastries, nuts, figs and chocolates.
A one-hour flight took us from Barcelona to Granada to see the indescribable Alhambra, an ancient Moorish palace with a breathtaking view of the entire city.
Unlike sunny Barcelona, we decided that the rain in Spain falls mainly in Granada, where it was also much cooler, one of the reasons the Moors built the palace as a summer residence. That same night, we saw flamenco dancing in a tavern situated in an old cave.
Barbara and I had planned to go to Cordoba, but we both developed some sort of intestinal virus, which kept us hotel bound for a full day, during which we took every prescription and pill we had brought with us and existed on tea and toast delivered by room service.
Still, it was a wonderful trip, and all too soon, time to head home.
- Article by Jean Cherni, founder of the retirement advisory service, Senior Living Solutions. Contact her at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at Hotchkiss Grove, Branford 06405.
I'd never been to Barcelona before
Noel Coward would not believe his ears
I’ve been watching and listening to the many Republican debates on television in order to try to take the measure of the man or woman who might possibly be called upon to lead our country out of the many knotty problems, both foreign and domestic, it presently faces.
So far, most of the candidates have seemed long on rhetoric and short on workable ideas. Whether Republican or Democrat, our campaigns seem to have deteriorated into mud-slinging bouts ... and we’re not even close to election time yet.
However, none of the candidates has shown the consummate skill of some famous past “insulters” who had mastered the fine art of the put down. A selection follows, and you, dear reader, may delight in finding these former sayings are a perfect match to today’s political figures. I leave you to figure out which fits who:
-“He is completely unspoiled by failure” — Noel Coward
-“Don’t look now, there’s one too many in this room and I think it’s you” — Groucho Marx
-“He can compress the most words into the smallest idea of any man I know” — Abraham Lincoln
-“Her only flair is in her nostrils” — Pauline Kael
-“He was trying to save both his faces” — John Gunther
-“He is a self-made man and worships his creator” — John Bright
-“He uses statistics as a drunken man uses lamp-posts; for support rather than illumination” — Andrew Lang
-“The trouble with her is that she lacks the power of conversation, but not the power of speech” — George Bernard Shaw
-“He had delusions of adequacy” — Walter Kerr
-“He has all of the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire” — Winston Churchill
-“He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends” — Oscar Wilde
-“He has the attention span of a lightning bolt” — Robert Redford
-“A modest little person with much to be modest about” — Winston Churchill
-“They never open their mouths without subtracting from the sum of human knowledge” — Thomas Reed
And to describe how I felt after listening to several of these lengthy debates, there is no better quote than Groucho Marx, who once quipped, “I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening, but this wasn’t it.”
Just in case, at some future time you find yourself on the receiving end of an insult, some quick expert’s advice on how to handle it.
-Don’t react ... keep neutral.
-Ask why they are attacking you.
-If you have unintentionally made a mistake, accept responsibility for your actions and apologize.
-Anger, hurt and insecurity are at the root of most insults. Insecure people call attention to the shortcomings of others in order to cover up their own perceived inadequacies.
-Respond with humor.
-Talk away and let them look bad for stooping to an insult.
However, if you are like me, you will think of the perfect comeback at around two in the morning, when it is too late to do anything about it.
Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford, 06405.
Jaunts around New England make this a colorful time of year
After a disappointing start with unseasonably warm, humid weather and periods of heavy rain, fall has finally arrived and our neighborhood is starting to sprout Halloween decorations, talk of football and the World Series is in the air, and it’s time to plan some fall trips and enjoy this all too brief and special season.
I’m already signed up for two trips; one of them with the Guilford Library group going to Salem, Mass. The other, later in the month, a much-needed break from work and caregiving, will take me further afield.
Lots of opportunities exist for quick trips to off-the-beaten track places that result in that getting-away-from-it-all feeling. Here are just a few suggestions:
-Clyde’s Cider Mill, Old Mystic. Tour the only steam-powered cider mill in America and sample hard ciders, apple wine and local honey. Make it a day trip or stay overnight at the Inn at Mystic where they even have cabins for families.
-At Mystic Seaport, they are featuring “Sights and Frights” on Oct. 28 and 29 with lighted pumpkins throughout the village and a roaming fortune teller as well as a costume parade for the youngsters. Call 860-572-5322.
-An overnight escape package is offered at the Interlaken Inn in Lakeville and includes a continental breakfast, a restaurant discount and a $25 Mobil gas card. Call 1-800-222-2909 for details. The Stonecroft Country Inn in Ledyard has “Hide and Sleep” packages that are money savers.
-Visit your local AAA for driving tours to spot the best fall foliage. There is a Connecticut River Loop through Essex, Deep River and Haddam. Another tour follows Route 169 through Litchfield County. Internet sites or state tourist bureaus are also filled with good ideas for family or senior-friendly excursions.
-New Hampshire trips such as a visit to Franconia Notch State Park take travelers through a spectacular mountain pass traversed by a unique parkway. Great for picnics and hikes.
-In Ipswich, Mass., bring the young ones to Russell Orchard for apple picking, animals to pet and homemade ice cream. And if it turns warm, you can take a walk on nearby Crane’s Beach.
-Although Manchester, Vermont, is reported to be the top foliage town, Keene, N.H., takes top honors when it comes to pumpkins. In 2000, they had a record-breaking 23,727 glowing gourds decorating the quaint town. Their pumpkin festival is this weekend. Also this weekend and on Oct. 27-30 as well, at Phillipsburg Manor in Westchester, Horseman’s Hollow Nites includes a terrifying landscape with vampires, witches and ghouls haunting a beautiful old estate. Call 914-631-8200.
-Don’t feel like driving far? River Quest cruises depart from Haddam and offer views of Gillette Castle as well as fall color.
-You could also visit the Peabody Museum on Oct. 29 for their “Mysteries of Halloween” or plan an enjoyable spooky time at the always wonderful Ivoryton Playhouse where “The Woman in Black” starts on Nov. 2. Call 860-767-7318. There’s a Halloween concert on Oct. 31 at 11:59 at Woolsey Hall, 203-562-5666. A benefit concert at 8:30 and 10 p.m. Oct. 29 at Firehouse 12, 45 Crown St., New Haven, features silent horror films with live musical entertainment, 203-785-0468 or firehouse12.com. There will be dramatic readings of that old master of the horror genre, Edgar Allen Poe, Oct. 30 at Lyric Hall, 827 Whalley Ave, 203-915-9971. Small children would enjoy the Halloween party and parade from 10 a.m.-5 p.m. on Oct. 29 at the Florence Griswold Museum in Old Lyme, 860-434-5542. The Essex Fright Train, a ride complete with ghosts, runs Oct 28-31; information at 860-767-0103, or perhaps you would like to take the Halloween Express on Oct. 29 and 30 at the Railroad Museum of New England in Thomaston, where costumed passengers will be taken on a scenic 20-mile ride, 860-283-RAIL.
With so much to do and see and with our state and New England at its leafy loveliest, if you don’t find something to do, the goblins will surely get you.
Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford, 06405.
Let go of all of the things you no longer or use
Many people today, out of economic necessity or out of a desire to live a simpler, more meaningful lifestyle, are questioning the long-held premise of more is good.
They realize that working harder than ever to buy more stuff is not making them more happy. Lily Tomlin’s comedic wisdom hit the nail on the head when she quipped, “In today’s rat race, even if you win, you’re still a rat.”
It’s time we left the rat race and joined the human race and thought about the future of our precious planet and the others who also inhabit it. Living more simply doesn’t have to mean scrimping or a monastic-like lifestyle. It is about living with balance and being more concerned with the quality of our health, our relationships and the contributions we are making to our families or in the workplace.
As a senior adviser whose daily work entails helping other seniors leave the familiarity and space of a former home in favor of a more secure, sociable lifestyle, often in a smaller apartment or a retirement community, I am aware of how often all of us cling to things we no longer need or use.
We are not only owned by our possessions, but enslaved by the time required to purchase, pay, care and find space for them.
Even some of the so-called time-saving gadgets that seemed like such a good idea at the time of purchase, become frustrating, time-consuming problems, far beyond our mechanical ability to understand or to fix. Please don’t misunderstand: I have never been the type to grow my own veggies, make my own clothes, or even keep a neat, clutter-free home, although I have great admiration for those who can.
But I have always valued “doing” over “having,” and the older I become, the more I realize the importance of making the choices that enrich our lives over those that might enrich our pocketbooks or social standing.
The saddest phrase I hear from some seniors is, “I wish I had.” I’m often asked, when is a good time to get rid of things and make a move?” You can’t start too soon to get rid of things and simplify your life ... most of us have far more than we realize. As to when to move, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.
I often hear the expression, “I know I need to move, but I’m not ready yet.” My usual reply is, “How will you know when you are ready? Will the sky light up with the words, ‘NOW’?”
The ideal time to make a change is before you actually need to. Youth thrives on risk and uncertainty, but as we age, we too often become fearful of any change; yet life itself involves constant change.
Although I have not, as yet, owned any Apple products, I read and watched the eulogies and remarks of many people who knew Steve Jobs. He was undoubtedly, one of the most brilliant minds in his field and even of this century. But in addition, he had a commitment to perfection and its pursuit, and he lived a life devoid of frills or excess. He was a vegan, had a fairly modest five-bedroom home in Palo Alto, Calif., and his standard outfit was blue jeans and a black turtleneck, so that he didn’t have to waste time deciding what to wear.
Already diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he told Stanford grads in a commencement speech in 2005, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it on living someone else’s life.” He believed in living your passion and as a result, it is truly amazing how passionate many people are about the products he developed.
However, like many business executives, he could be ruthless in order to succeed. While Apple products were designed in America, they consisted of component parts made in China in factories with little concern for the health or comfort of their workers.
While Steve Jobs may have redefined our music, cell phone and computer industry, it will be interesting to see what the Apple legacy contributes to our cultural well being.
Contact Jean Cherni, certified senior adviser for Senior Living Solutions and Pearce Plus, a helpful, full-service program for seniors contemplating a move, at jeancherni@sbcglobal.net or 15 The Ponds at 101 Hotckiss Grove, Branford, 06405.