Since when did “senior” become a dirty word? Various organizations are struggling to find a new title or phrase that omits that now forbidden word in favor of vague euphemisms like, “the third phase of life,” “the sunset or golden years” or the “unretirement years.”
In many cultures, a senior or an “elder” is considered special and is revered. In America, as we are made all too aware, a woman should somehow strive to remain between the ages of 17 and 28, indefinitely. I, for one, don’t mourn the passing years as long as my health remains good. But there are a few things that every woman of what was formerly referred to as “a certain age” needs to have:
An accurate, but flattering, three-way mirror so she will never leave the house looking ridiculous or feeling completely discouraged.
A man, other than her husband, who regularly tells her she looks fabulous. (On second thought, most women would settle for their husband just noticing what they are wearing.)
Grown children who don’t blame her for all their problems, but recognize many of them are of their own making.
The ability to enjoy her own company.
Friends who never say, “At your age, you shouldn’t ...”
One room, decorated just the way she wants it, that is hers alone and off-limits to everyone else.
A unique and special interest or passion that makes her wake up each morning, eager to start the day.
One really good friend who understands her completely and admires her anyway.
Her own bank account.
One good piece of “bling” jewelry that guarantees she’ll get waited on at Bergdorf’s or Le Bernadin.
A pet, be it dog, cat, bird or fish, that waits for her each day with unconditional loyalty and love.
Enough money to pay regular bills in a timely fashion, but not so much that planning and saving and therefore eventually savoring, something special, is unnecessary.
In addition to air, earth, water and fire, all women have four personal, but necessary elements, in order to survive and be happy. Mine are a loving relationship, travel, theater and the arts, and meaningful work.
The above is my special list ... I am sure every woman has her own priorities. What is important is that we recognize what they are so that we may lead fulfilling, joyful lives, whatever our age.
0 Responses:
Post a Comment